Do I Have Good Self-Esteem?

According to the Mayo Clinic

“Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself — how you feel about your abilities and limitations. When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and see yourself as deserving the respect of others. When you have low self-esteem, you put little value on your opinions and ideas. You might constantly worry that you aren’t good enough”.

Those on the lower range of Self-Esteem are afraid of trying new things because they do not believe they can succeed. They doubt their abilities and lack confidence. They struggle in relationships, have difficulty establishing boundaries and expressing their needs. People with Low Self-Esteem usually feel unloveable and unworthy.

By contrast people with excessive Self-Esteem can be overly confident and are usually bullies. They tend to over estimate their skills and abilities and believe they are entitled to succeed. These can lead to difficult relationships because they are perfect and it’s everyone else who needs to change.

Below I have complied a table which shows the differences between the two and highlights Healthy Self-Esteem

Low Self-Esteem	Healthy Self-Esteem	Excessive Self-Esteem
Lack Self-Confidence	Self-Confidence	Overly Confident
Focuses on Weakness	Aware of Strengths and Weaknesses	Believes they are perfect
Negative outlook	Positive Outlook	Positive Outlook
Others are better than me	I am Equal to others	I am better than others
Your needs are more important than mine	My needs are just as important as yours	My needs are more important than yours
Difficulty saying no	Easily says no	Bullies and intimidates
Afraid of failure	Understands failure is feedback	Believes they cannot fail
Underestimates skills and abilities	Accepts skills and abilities	Overestimates skills and abilities
Excesses in behaviour e.g., drinking, drugs, sex, gambling	Self-moderation	Excesses in behaviour e.g., drinking, drugs, sex, gambling
I am always wrong	I am sometimes right, sometimes wrong	I am always right
Afraid to try new things	Always working towards a new goal	Believes they are perfect- has grandiose ideas

Which Category are you in? If you are in the middle with Healthy Self-Esteem Congratulations!

If you are on the left or the right and you would like more balance in your life…..

Love and Light,

Tsahai