According to the Mayo Clinic
“Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself — how you feel about your abilities and limitations. When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and see yourself as deserving the respect of others. When you have low self-esteem, you put little value on your opinions and ideas. You might constantly worry that you aren’t good enough”.
Those on the lower range of Self-Esteem are afraid of trying new things because they do not believe they can succeed. They doubt their abilities and lack confidence. They struggle in relationships, have difficulty establishing boundaries and expressing their needs. People with Low Self-Esteem usually feel unloveable and unworthy.
By contrast people with excessive Self-Esteem can be overly confident and are usually bullies. They tend to over estimate their skills and abilities and believe they are entitled to succeed. These can lead to difficult relationships because they are perfect and it’s everyone else who needs to change.
Below I have complied a table which shows the differences between the two and highlights Healthy Self-Esteem
|Low Self-Esteem||Healthy Self-Esteem||Excessive Self-Esteem|
|Lack Self-Confidence||Self-Confidence||Overly Confident|
|Focuses on Weakness||Aware of Strengths and Weaknesses||Believes they are perfect|
|Negative outlook||Positive Outlook||Positive Outlook|
|Others are better than me||I am Equal to others||I am better than others|
|Your needs are more important than mine||My needs are just as important as yours||My needs are more important than yours|
|Difficulty saying no||Easily says no||Bullies and intimidates|
|Afraid of failure||Understands failure is feedback||Believes they cannot fail|
|Underestimates skills and abilities||Accepts skills and abilities||Overestimates skills and abilities|
|Excesses in behaviour e.g., drinking, drugs, sex, gambling||Self-moderation||Excesses in behaviour e.g., drinking, drugs, sex, gambling|
|I am always wrong||I am sometimes right, sometimes wrong||I am always right|
|Afraid to try new things||Always working towards a new goal||Believes they are perfect- has grandiose ideas|
Which Category are you in? If you are in the middle with Healthy Self-Esteem Congratulations!
If you are on the left or the right and you would like more balance in your life…..
Love and Light,